16 Lessions I've Learnt in 16 years!
- Don’t make “happiness” the ultimate goal of your life. It’s truly pointless, it’s fleeting and temporary. It’s not something to aim at because it’s not the aim. What if you turn out to be unhappy? What if your neurotransmitters aren’t working in your favor leading to a constant miserable and dejected state, then by this parameter you’ve failed at life? It’s an irrelevant and a pointless goal. As Peterson says: Happiness is like cotton candy. It’s just not going to do the job!
- Never make any decisions when you’re in a poor state of mind (I call it the lower order state). Have the awareness of your different mental states, every time you fall at the bottom of the pit, learn to stop reacting and thinking — distract yourself and do something completely unrelated. Move around, watch a video, hear a song, dance a little, talk to somebody, do whatever you need to to get far far away from the problem, so you can get in a better state quickly to be able to solve the problem. The solutions that’ll arise from being too caught up with the emotions surfacing because of the problem will often lead to short- term, faulty solutions, hence it is necessary that you step away. When you’re distant from the problem and you’re able to see the situation with a clearer head — from a naked eye -that’s when you talk/ act/ react/ do/ make a decision. Eventually, after practicing this for a while, you’ll be natural at talking yourself to a calmer state and step in an observer state where you’re completely objective of the situation and therefore, take 10/10 good decisions.
- Your circumstances may be something you can’t always control, but your reaction to those circumstances is completely in your control. Moreover, one shouldn’t fret over things that are uncontrollable, it’s a futile exercise.
- “Desire” is a very powerful emotion — desire to eat the extra slice of cake, desire to buy something you don’t need, desire to learn — fuel the desires that benefit you, and be wary of the repercussions of acting on the other desires which may not always be beneficial- and then take the call of whether you still want to act upon it or not. “Awareness” of your desires and when and how they arise is crucial.
- High risk; high reward. Play big if you want to win big. Have enough faith in yourself to know that even if you lose it all while taking big risks, you will always have the potential to re-build yourself from scratch
- Create a lot, create endlessly and create a lot of beautiful things that you’re proud of. Creation → sense of fulfillment!
- Ideas are worth nothing unless executed. They are just a multiplier. Execution is the name of the game!
- Copy the good stuff that all successful people do, observe what’s not good and observe their shortcomings and make sure you don’t do that. The fastest way to get ahead in life is continuously learning from all the mistakes other people made, so you can scrap that and move faster doing the things that’ll make you grow — cutting down on the hindrances.
- It’s all about the bigger vision, the larger picture — but don’t discount the smaller wins making up your daily lives– it is what paves the path towards this vision, be mindful of the smaller things while working on this larger picture
- It is okay to ask for help. Asking for help doesn’t make you incapable, or any less of an individual than you are, erase notions like these from your mind. So ask away, ask as many times as you want/ need. It’ll only speed up your journey to wherever you want to reach.
- Identify where you’re wrong the very first time and rectify. Also, learn how to learn from those you disagree with, or even offend you. See if you can find the truth in what they believe.
- There are plenty of agony filled people in the world. When someone is nasty, rude, or mean with you, pretend that they are unwell,suffering from a disease. That makes it easier to have empathy towards them which can soften the conflict. Also remember, there are no bad people, just bad circumstances or environment that influenced them to be a certain way.
- No one is permanent except your family, and no one loves you more than them, especially your parents. Your parents, siblings will always be your biggest supporters. Nurture these relationships!
- When things go awry, try to find the underlying currents behind a person’s actions, no one wants to hurt you intentionally.
- Sucess does't come to me for what I'm doing occasionally, it comes for what I do consistently!
- Life is literally too short, make it one worth writing about!
